Our Children

We got married in 1965 and didn't have children till 1972 when Anjali was born. And we left her with her grandparents to go to the UK. Hari was born in Maidstone, Kent on 8/8/1974. Anju is Poorooruttathi and Hari is Revathi.

Anju entered the Medical field and selected Radiology. She is now a consultant in Aberdeen Royal infirmary and an examiner in Royal College of Radiologists, UK. Hari studied in Swami's institutions from plus 2, BSc, MSc, and PhD - in physics - specially selected by Swamy for His Space Theatre as manager.

So both have reached a position anyone can be proud of.

Now I am with Hari in PSN (Prasanthi Nilayam) since last Dec 2nd. I didn't have to worry about anything. He has completely taken over all my tasks and I just obey him - all Bank dealings, tax returns, medicine buying etc. I have accounts mainly in Canara bank, HDFC, and Calicut City Service coop bank.

Hari had 2 room-mates - Nagaraju and Srinivasan. The latter has chronic renal failure and is getting regular dialysis. NAGARAJU'S father died recently and so he is staying outside Prasanthi Nilayam. So Hari is alone in his room C4. His subordinates love and adore him because they can ask his help at any time and he obliges spontaneously without any reservation. He doesn't have any hesitation in spending but avoids unnecessary spending. He uses money judiciously and so all my assets are being properly managed. I too have absolute faith in him and he will manage it even after our death. He will divide all our wealth equally between himself and Anju according to the WILL we have executed. Even without the WILL he will be just in utilising the assets. His nature is truth and justice. Anju is someone who will never go after money because they are earning sufficiently, and Anju is aware of it. She has faith in Hari. Our family is of a sturdy, mutually loving and respecting type. If Anju is of an adorable nature, Anoop is twice as adorable in that respect. He looks after Anju like one's KRISHNAMANI (like the eyelids protect the eyes).

Anju calls us almost daily, in the evenings. You know that our times differ by 5.30 hours (IST and UK time) and in winter, one hour less. So we plan and call, sending whatsapp messages to co-ordinate. Mostly she would be in the hospital while calling. On holidays she calls from home. Some weekends she is on call. After becoming Consultant, responsibility is more but on-call rota will be less strenuous. 

Anju's daughter Aparna is a medical student but classes are online now, and so she would be at home most of the time. Good responsible hardworking student. Cooks her own food. She prefers non-veg though Anju is a strict vegetarian. Aparna has her western tastes, developed out of necessity from friends. She is no more fussy about food now. In her adolescence, she developed certain food fads which got a bit extreme. Her parents were very worried and had to pass through a bad patch in their life. She gradually tided over that situation by the time she joined college. Fortunately her academic brilliance never got affected and she came out in flying colours from school and college. After college she applied for Medicine in 4 universities - Glasgow, Edinburgh, Aberdeen and another place in Britain and for Chemistry also. She did well everywhere. She was in a dilemma on where to join. In the beginning, she wanted Glasgow but later decided to join Aberdeen itself which had many advantages which she realised after her parents made her understand. Now she has everything online - and she has passed all exams well. Their academic medical curriculum is different from ours. Anyway, she is shining there also. I hope and wish she has a bright and happy doctor's life ahead.

Here Hari is having a hectic life, carrying on official work which is online, but quite heavy, and looking after most of Rema's needs including changing every 4 hours, even night, frequently giving her water for drinking, helping to do physiotherapy, etc. Whatever improvement Rema has had is 100 percent Hari's effort - from totally helpless stage to present state where she does most things with her hands and is trying to stand up and move the body trunk. I wish and hope and pray that soon she will be moving in a motorised wheelchair (Hari got one already) which is our last wish. At least she then can go out and see the campus and later go to the Mandir if Swami wishes.

Hari has to cater to calls from various departments like Vidya Vahini and others and that itself can take time. Household things like washing clothes, massive online shopping, collecting the parcels and storing the items, going to his office and and so many other errands like managing and talking to servants because only he knows Telugu. He toils practically the whole day. I cannot help him much because only he knows Telugu and I cannot go out freely anywhere. The only work - as a time-pass - I do is on my Laptop. Not doing any useful work - that is what I feel ashamed of. 

I can't help otherwise because of my handicaps here. At Calicut, I was keeping busy somehow - whether useful or not - at least an occasional phone-call from an old patient. Going to the Bank was my special hobby - FD renewals, cash withdrawals, etc and I used to describe myself as a NIDHI KAAKKUNNA BHOOTHAM (ghost who keeps watch over treasure). 

Rema and I are feeling very peaceful in PSN and that is why we call it VYKUNTHAM. When Hari suggested to me at Calicut a few months back, to go and settle in PSN, I was not at all willing, because I didn't know what problems I would face here. Only now do I know all the advantages here, and feel I should have come earlier. Hari is wiser than me in many respects and I feel proud and happy over this fact.

Salputhran and Salputhri (good son and good daughter) are God's blessings.